Live by the Word in Your Marriage
Jesus told us that the greatest commandment is to love God and the second greatest commandment is to love others as we love ourselves. The Bible tells husbands to love their wives as Christ loves the church and tells wives to respect their husbands as the head of the home. These are very clear directives in Scripture that could clear up many arguments immediately. The Bible is full of wisdom waiting to be tested and proven valid in our lives. We just have to go to the Word when we find ourselves on different sides of the fence on an issue.
A person committed to a contract marriage would enter a fight to prove he or she is right. In a covenant marriage, however, the right to priority has already been laid down, while the responsibilities to love, honor, and submit have been picked up. Conflict should drive you to discover what God says is best for your marriage. If you are concerned that approaching conflict in such a passive will make you a doormat, remember who your defender is. Jesus is committed to you. He wants to work all things together for your good. But if you step in and attempt to make everything better in your life or your spouse’s life, you rob Jesus of the opportunity. Only He can change your spouse. Only He can change you. When you commit to submission in your marriage, you give Him control. When He is at the wheel in your marriage, you can trust that He will drive you to places only wisdom and blessing can access.
You and your spouse may not be crazy about this idea of dying to self and living in covenant. It is very possible that you will need to step out by faith in obedience to become the kind of husband or wife you are supposed to be in order to save your marriage. Every covenant has to have a redeemer. The redeemer is the person who dies first. Jesus was our Redeemer. Jesus died for us before we died to our sin. He died first and redeemed us from our selfishness! Your relationship needs a redeemer. Your relationship needs Jesus.
Commit to doing your part even if the other person doesn’t. Usher the spirit of covenant into your marriage and kick the spirit of contract out. Do the right thing and God will bless you! What lies beyond death for a believer is paradise. What lies beyond death for a believer’s marriage is heaven on earth.
Copyright © 2006 by Robert and Debbie Morris
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